Tuesday, March 27, 2007

“ Berdoalah, maka Aku kabulkan “

Sinetron “Si Entong” di TPI pasti tidak lebih menarik dari acara gossip atau info tainment yang marak di televisi swasta Indonesia. Jika memang enlighten atau pencerahan yang mau kita cari ‘Si Entong” mungkin salah satu pilihan terbaik. Tema yang ditampilkan cukup mudah dicerna dan penuh dengan muatan motivasi dan philosophi.
Salah satu scene “Si Entong” membuat gue semakin yakin bahwa motivasi dan philosophi yang disampaikan benar-benar mengena dan percaya atau tidak itu terjadi.

Tidak seperti sinetron yang membawa sentuhan nasehat atau peringatan seperti “Rahasia Ilahi”, Hikayat atau lainnya. Acara yang satu ini begitu mudah untuk dicerna. Entah karena memang ditujukan untuk pangsa anak-anak atau memang sang sutrdara membuat cerita untuk mudah dicerna.

“ Berdoalah, maka Aku kabulkan “ seperti kata seorang Ustad yang di bintangi Adi Bing Selamet ini, merupakan perintah dari Allah SWT kepada umatnya untuk meminta kepada-Nya. Keyakinan dan ketulusan doa serta usaha yang sungguh-sungguh akan berbuah kenikmatan yang kita cari.

Keputusasa’an karena tidak tercapainya sebuah permintaan kembali kepada kita dalam menjalani sebuah doa. Bersungguh-sungguhlah dalam doa, Allah maha mendengar dan maha pemurah.

Monday, March 19, 2007

Tidak Mudah Marah


Dari Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu anhu, bahwa ada seorang laki-laki berkata kepada Nabi Shallallahu 'alaihi wa Sallam: "Berilah wasiat kepadaku". Sabda Nabi Shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam : "Janganlah engkau mudah marah". Maka diulanginya permintaan itu beberapa kali. Sabda beliau : "Janganlah engkau mudah marah".

(HR. Bukhari)

Penjelasan :

Pengarang kitab Al Ifshah berkata : "Boleh jadi Nabi mengetahui laki-laki tersebut sering marah, sehingga nasihat ini ditujukan khusus kepadanya. Nabi Shallallahu 'alaihi wa Sallam memuji orang yang dapat mengendalikan hawa nafsunya ketika marah". Sabda beliau : "Bukanlah dikatakan orang yang kuat karena dapat membanting lawannya, tetapi orang yang kuat ialah orang yang mampu mengendalikan hawa nafsunya di waktu marah".

Allah juga memuji orang yang dapat mengendalikan nafsunya ketika marah dan suka memberi maaf kepada orang lain. Diriwayatkan dari Nabi Shalallahu 'alaihi wa sallam bahwa beliau bersabda : "Barang siapa menahan marahnya padahal ia sanggup untuk melampiaskannya, maka kelak Allah akan memanggilnya pada hari kiamat di hadapan segala makhluk, sehingga ia diberi hak memilih bidadari yang disukainya"

Tersebut pada Hadits lain : "Marah itu dari setan".

Oleh karena itu, orang yang marah menyimpang dari keadaan normal, berkata yang bathil, berbuat yang tercela, menginginkan kedengkian, perseteruan dan perbuatan-perbuatan tercela. Semua itu adalah akibat dari rasa marah. Semoga Allah melindungi kita dari rasa marah. Tersebut pada Hadits Sulaiman bin Shard : "Sesungguhnya mengucapkan 'a'udzuubillaahi minasy syaithanirrajiim' dapat menghilangkan rasa marah".

Karena sesungguhnya setanlah yang mendorong marah. Setiap orang yang menginginkan hal-hal yang terpuji, setan selalu membelokkannya dan menjauhkannya dari keridhaan Allah, maka mengucapkan "a'udzuubillaahi minasy syaithanirrajiim" merupakan senjata yang paling kuat untuk menolak tipu daya setan ini.

Judul Asli : Syarhul arba'iina Hadiitsan An Nawawiyah

Penulis : Ibnu Daqiqil 'Ied

Terjemah : Muhammad Thalib (Media Hidayah Yogyakarta)

Sunday, March 18, 2007

Hidup adalah sebuah perjalanan….

Sudah digariskan titik awal dan akhir hidup akan kita lalui di saat kita hilang kesadaran. Hampir 99% alam sadar kita akan hilang……..
Kenapa……..???
Ingatkah saat kita lahir, saat pertama kali kita menghirup anugrah udara……..kita tak akan pernah tau bagaimana rasanya. Dan ketika ajal menjemput nanti, sadarkah kita saat Malaikat penjemput maut sedikit demi sedikt menarik roh kita keluar dari raga….
Saat kita hidup itulah kesadaran teruji, saat kita sadar akan kesedihan dan kegembiraan, kesengsaraan dan kebahagian. Semua adalah perjalanan yang selalu ada rahasia tanggung renteng (acountabilitas ) keadaan yang bertolak belakang satu sama lain.
Lalui perjalanan ini dengan kesabaran karena dibalik sesuatu yang menyedihkan akan ada kegembiraan, begitu pula sebaliknya.
Perjalanan akan terus berlanjut, hingga kita hilang kesadaran dan ajal menjemput nanti.

Friday, March 16, 2007

Menikah.........

Fusing of live....1-2-3
Bukan saja dua manusia tetapi dua kehidupan harus dilebur. Bukan saja satu keluarga tetapi tiga keluarga harus dilebur. Dua manusia yang berbeda dan dua keluarga yang berbeda akan ditautkan dalam satu bayi keluarga. Bayi keluarga yang belum bisa apa-apa. Saling toleransi dan mawas diri semoga menjadi kuncinya.

Neccessities of live
Nafkah harus terbagi, Lahir dan Bathin….Tidak hanya ia yang mempunyai nafkah lahir tidak akan membutuhkan nafkah bathin. Begitu juga ia yang tidak bisa memberikan nafkah lahir adalah ia yang kaya akan nafkah bathin. Saling memerlukan Lahir dan Bathin.

Leading of live
Tidak mutlak hanya seorang suami sebagai pemimpin yang mengarahkan keluarga. Tetapi seorang lebih berperan dalam penentu arah tujuan keluarga. Kehormatan sebuah keluarga besar kecilnya ditentukan oleh seorang istri.


Tuesday, March 13, 2007

How to Write a Career Objective

If you must include an objective in your resume, make sure it’s not an afterthought-or a mere garnishing that does nothing to increase your chances of landing that job.

"Shoot for the moon, and maybe land among the stars." This is the way most career objectives sound in the resume of inexperienced job seekers. Vague. Uncertain. Aiming for everything and nothing. That is why, some experts warn, "If you cannot say it clearly, don't say anything at all." Why is this problem so common?

For most of us, a career objective is something thrown in-almost as an afterthought-when cooking up a resume. Something like a garnishing. An extra ingredient to spice things up. We think of it simply as an optional blank field we may choose to fill up with standard words in a standard format. Or, worse, with copied words from someone else's resume.

But if a career objective is just garnishing, as some people think it is, then why is it always placed on the crucial first line of the resume? This is the first statement the recruiter reads, after your name and contact numbers. Is that strategic placement just an accident? On the other hand, if this line is so important, then why the cavalier treatment?

The One True Objective
This attitude-and the resulting vagueness-seems to come from the fact that most of us don't really know what we mean by career objective. Reading between the lines of expert opinions, we begin to see that they may really be talking about two different kinds of objectives:

  1. A career objective for your life; and
  2. A career objective for your resume

Come again? Focus those glazing eyes, and let's take a closer look.

The dictionary defines "career" as "a person's advancement through life, especially in a profession." Job-hunting guru Richard Nelson Bolles is probably one of the staunchest proponents of the idea that we should aim for our one, true desire in life-and state that as our career objective. No two minds about it. For him, that objective is the whole point of the job hunt.

"Forget what is available out there. Go after what you really want," he advises boldly in the best-selling, annually updated book,
What Color is your Parachute?

Does he differentiate between one's objective in life and the objective stated in the resume? Since Bolles is one career expert who does not think that a resume is a necessity, a statement of career objective specifically for a resume is not even a relevant issue to him.

In effect, he is saying that a resume is just an optional tool that a job seeker may choose not to use in the hunting process. It seems that if he has his way, he will do away with it completely. Go, figure. Still, he maintains that should a job hunter use one, he must make sure that he, the job seeker, "shines through" all the words he puts in his resume.

In short, the resume should be tailored around the job hunter's career objective-his life objective-not the other way around. "Don't be a job-beggar," he says. "Be a resource person." Developing one's career objective in this vein is a hunter-driven process, which begins and ends with what the hunter is truly seeking.

Tailor-Fit Your Objective to Your Resume
On the other hand, other experts take off on the common and very practical perception that we have to work with "what is available out there." What are the jobs on the market that a job hunter can apply for? Which jobs can fit, more or less, with his general direction in life? Which jobs can help him, in a step-by-step way, move toward his life objective.

For these experts, having several versions of a resume with several versions of a career objective is a real job-hunting necessity. Make sure that your career objectives will match the particular needs of the target employer, they advise. Makes a lot of sense, right? You do want a job, pay those bills.

Hence, it is important to clearly identify the parameters that the job seeker can work around-certain combinations of the following key elements, depending on what he wants to stress:

* The position (accounting, nursing)
* The field (publishing, computer technology)
* The hunter's marketable skills (human relations, mathematical abilities)

So as not to turn off those recruiters, heed these general guidelines for writing career objectives:

* Be concise (but not so specific that you limit yourself too much).
* Use verb phrases rather than sentences (Example:
Seeking . . . rather than I seek).
* Be sure the objective is compatible with the resume.
* Demonstrate your value as a candidate and as an asset, not what you will get.

In short, it is a market-driven process of developing objectives. The main aim is to make a hit with at least one of the available positions, in one of the open fields, with some of the hunters' marketable sets of skills. The lay of the land is defined by what the employers offer and the hunter must fit his objective(s) within this topography.

Assess Yourself
The trouble with most career objectives we read is that they wobble between these two kinds of objectives, undecided. It is probably better for a job seeker to approach the job hunt one way or the other, but not somewhere in between. That is the surest path to vagueness and awkwardness.

In any case, though the experts differ on many things, they seem to agree on one thing. Always start with a comprehensive self-assessment. They are one in saying: Clarify your career objectives (whichever kind they mean) by clarifying who you are.

So, let’s get to the crux of the matter. After you’ve carefully assessed yourself, specifically your strengths and abilities, along with the tasks you have performed in previous jobs and how you intend to use them in the next one, what do you do next?

The next logical step, of course, is to labor at phrasing your objective well, making sure it does not sound “I-centered.” Consider this example: “A position as a sales engineer requiring superior skills in managing and monitoring sales and promotions of equipment to clients.” Now, contrast this with: “A position as a sales engineer, where I can enhance my skills in managing and monitoring sales and promotions of equipment to clients and eventually advance to higher positions.” The difference between the two is obvious: the first is targeted at meeting the prospective employer’s needs; the second emphasizes what the job seeker hopes to gain from, not contribute to, the prospective employer.

Keep in mind that similar positions could vary from one company to another. Therefore, you would do well to refrain from using job titles in career objectives. That way you don’t limit your chances of being considered for the job that you want. This is not to say that very specific objectives have no use. If you really want a job that requires very specific skills, then, by all means, make your objective specific-but not limiting. This means your objective can apply to other jobs even if you must specify the skills that you think make you the perfect fit for the job you’re applying for.

In the end, it is the job hunter's call what to aim for and how to state his or her career objective. Helpful resources are everywhere, specifically on the Internet. And the market is out there for the hunting.